The Melancholy:
Hippocrates, an early Greek historian, who lived from 460
- 370 BC considered the Melancholy as the “black
temperament”. No other color best describes this
temperament more accurately, for the Melancholy is
constantly tormented by dark or “black moods”. Of all
the other temperaments the Melancholy in Inclusion surpasses
the other temperaments in this area.
The pure Melancholy for example is an introvert and a loner.
God does not make any mistakes when He makes us, and it is
ok to be a Melancholy when you are living out of your
strengths and not the weaknesses.
Melancholies are very family oriented individuals, and are
closely bonded to those within the family unit. Even though
they can be very exclusive and quiet with people in their
families; the family relationship is of major importance
with them. Melancholies need to learn to communicate their
feelings; emotionally they are very protective and guarded.
The way that a Melancholy demonstrates or says that they
love someone is by being dependable and responsible not in
physical terms such as hugging, touching and holding.
Melancholies are more task oriented as opposed to
relationship-oriented. They simply relate better to jobs
than to people. Because of their intellectual and analytical
energies they can see the end results of a project before
moving forward. Melancholies make good supervisors, as long
as they are comfortable in those known areas of management.
Melancholies are very creative people, but are prone to deep
depression.
Melancholies tend to be perfectionists and set unreasonable
standards and goals for themselves and the people around
them. They are very private people, as well as very serious.
They are self-motivated, and do not respond to the promise
of reward nor the threat of punishment.
Melancholies are very loyal people: to their family and
friends. If they make a promise the Melancholy will keep it.
Melancholies have a tendency to be self-sacrificing to those
close to them and mankind in general.
Inclusion Strengths In The Melancholy: Introvert,
loner, great thinker, genius-prone, very artistic and
creative, often found alone in thought, perfectionistic,
slow-paced, great understanding of tasks and systems, a
critical and challenging mind, and seeing both the pitfalls
and the end results of a project undertaken.
Inclusion Weaknesses In The Melancholy: Extremely
moody, suffer from “black” depressions, reject people, set
standards neither they nor anyone else can meet, develop
habits that are very hard to break, have suicidal
tendencies, low self-esteem and are pessimistic.
Control Strengths In The Melancholy: Good at
decisions and responsibilities in known areas, very good
leadership abilities. They adhere to the rules and they need
very little control over the lives and behavior of others.
Control Weaknesses In The Melancholy: Rigid,
inflexible, sensitive to failure, fear of the unknown, fear
of failure, apt to be a rebel and procrastinate.
Affection Strengths In The Melancholy: Very faithful,
loyal friends and self-sacrificing. Their feelings run deep
and tender (even though they lack the ability to express
these feelings). They easily empathize with others and have
the ability to make very deep commitments.
Affection Weaknesses In The Melancholy: They dissect
the past with theoretical “what ifs,” i.e., “what if” he had
given me flowers, I would feel loved; “what if” I were
prettier, they would love me more. Also, they are critical
of others, angry, cruel, vengeful, emotional, rarely tell
people how they feel, have a low self-image and are
sensitive to rejection from deep relationships. The loss of
a deep relationship (even by death) is devastating to them.
Melancholies “have sex” with their spouse; they do not “make
love” to them. This causes marital problems.
Melancholies when rising to their strengths, and once these
strengths are brought under God, the Melancholy is capable
of great and wonderful things. When Melancholies sink to
their weaknesses they become destructive to themselves and
those close to them.
There is great comfort and reward when we submit ourselves
to God (regardless of what temperament we possess) and learn
to live out our strengths in temperament that He has given
us. The Melancholy is very valuable in the body of Christ
under His control. Read through the Melancholy’s strengths
and carefully consider if the Melancholy would not be a
blessing and asset to their family, to the Kingdom of God,
the Church, and the community where they live. God help each
of us to live in the strengths of our temperament, our
in-born “nature”, God has given us.
   
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